A lack of self-confidence can affect every area of your life, from your job or business performance to your personal relationships. In reality, how you see yourself – whether you love who and what you see in the mirror every single day – has a powerful impact on how others treat you.
Some factors in increasing your sense of self-confidence may be beyond your control, but there are some positive and very tangible things that you can do that will have an immediate effect. Using these tips will help you attain your best potential as a successful and confident person.
- Dress your ‘right now body’ confidently. Dress the body you have right now instead of waiting until you’re at the ‘perfect’ size, and do it in a way that makes you smile and appreciate your best qualities. No one has a ‘perfect’ body – even swimsuit models see flaws in their physical bodies, so while you’re also taking positive steps to be healthier and stronger, dress as if you were already the person you want to be and you’ll feel yourself becoming that person. When you look good, you’ll feel good. Now, this doesn’t mean that you have to go out and spend a fortune on clothes. It’s better to buy a few really nice pieces than a bunch of cheap ones – check out my ‘Capsule Wardrobe’ course to see how easy it can be to create a versatile and attractive wardrobe without busting your budget.
- Walk faster. People who walk confidently keep a moderate to fast pace because they have goals to accomplish, people to meet, and places to be. Simply quickening your step will help you feel more confident and boost your energy levels.
- Strive for good posture. People are very visual, and they will form judgments about you by the way you carry yourself. If you are slumped over at the shoulders and do not look people in the eye, you’ll leave a potentially negative impression on them. Keep your head up, shoulders back, make eye contact with others, and stand up straight and tall. You have nothing to hide, and standing in this way will help you to be seen.
- Be grateful. Gratitude helps to create a state of peace in your body. A peaceful mind radiates confidence to those around you. Make a list of the things you appreciate about yourself – be sure to include physical, emotional and mental aspects of yourself – and be grateful for your past successes. Tell those you love or admire how grateful you are to have them in your life to encourage and inspire you.
- Compliment others. In addition to showing appreciation for what you have, it’s also important to show appreciation for others. If you think negatively about yourself, then you’ll have a stronger tendency to criticize others. Break this habit by intentionally looking for opportunities to praise others on a daily basis. Seeing and recognizing the best in others will help bring out the best in you.
- Give back. Contributing to the success of others in your community, at your job, or in your business will not only help you feel better about yourself, but karma will reward you positively in the end. What goes around comes around, right? Volunteer your time to help those in need or make a monetary contribution to your favorite local charity.
- Don’t be afraid to speak up. Many people keep quiet for fear of that they will say something silly or that others will not agree with them. Taking an active role in discussions will help to distinguish you as a leader and one who is willing to share their knowledge with peers. They will quickly recognize that you have confidence and plenty to offer – and that you are a team player, which makes you more valuable in all situations.
- Exercise regularly. If you work hard to attain a goal of a healthier and stronger you, you’ll create a better physical image and have more energy. Both of these things will contribute to your self-confidence, as will the compliments you’ll receive.
- Sit in the front row. Many of us give in to the tendency to try to blend into the back of the room somewhere – this doesn’t help to build your self-confidence. We don’t like being noticed, and we’ve been told not to “push” ourselves to the forefront for fear of looking arrogant or conceited. Confident people sit up front where they can take part in discussions without fear, and display the value their thoughts and ideas contain.
- Take a chance and try something new. Learning a new hobby or activity will broaden your horizons and your knowledge base and help you feel more “alive.” Any time you spend stretching your mind, trying something unfamiliar, and getting out of your comfort zone improves your overall self-confidence.
Life Lessons in Self-Confidence
The more self-confidence you build by trying the tips above, the more likely you’ll be to try other new activities, and increase your chances to succeed. No matter what task you choose to conquer – something new, or something you’ve experienced before – you’ll do so with more enthusiasm and zest for life. Any setbacks you encounter won’t bother you because you’ll have the confidence of past successes to help drive you forward to the next experience.
Those who are insecure can find life to be a more of a struggle than they might wish, but by following these tips to increase your self-confidence, you can find life and it’s challenges to be a joy. Why suffer with insecurity when you can soar with self-confidence!