Your personal beliefs – about yourself, your personality, your value and your uniqueness – are a foundational component of your self-esteem and self-confidence. It’s really hard to develop the certainty that you love who and what you see in the mirror every single day unless you are also certain that what you see is positive and worthwhile.
Having a less-than-powerful sense of who you are can cause all kinds of negative impacts and consequences. If you don’t believe you are worthy of good things – related to your job or business, your relationships, or your health – then it can be very hard to change potentially self-destructive patterns and move into more productive and positive behaviors.
You’re here because you either want to make a change, or you want to ensure that the positive changes you HAVE made become a permanent part of you life and your mindset. I’m glad you’re here – because I have a strong belief that we all have inside us the ability to make those positive changes.
I know that reinforcing your personal sense of power and authority to create change for yourself can only result in positive outcomes – that you CAN become the person you want to be – with a healthy and happy outlook on life. Anything can happen if you believe, and then put action behind those beliefs.
Today we’re going to take a look at personal beliefs – how they can impact our behavior in positive and negative ways, and how those behaviors can determine the quality of our lives.
Our beliefs have a profound, significant impact on our behavior. The behaviors that we display over an extended period determine the quality of our lives.
For example, if you believe that you can only be successful at a manual-labor job, or in a relationship where you are barely scraping by and not being supported, you would never attempt anything else. Creating permanent change in your life is dependent on changing your beliefs.
If you have negative or limiting beliefs about your life and who you are, what you are capable of, this process can help you change those negative beliefs to ones that will empower you and in the end, better serve you.
Write down your answers to these questions:
- Which belief do you want to change? You need to be able to see it to work with it effectively. So write it down. For example, one limiting belief you might have is: “I will never have a lot of money.” You may also be facing limiting beliefs around your educational level, your current health, or a relationship. These can take the form of “I will never” or “I do not deserve” statements that play out in your head.
- What has the belief cost you? Make a list of all the ways this belief has negatively impacted your life, or stopped you from moving forward in a more positive direction. Really think about it, because it helps to have as much negative ammunition to get rid of that old belief as you can get. Spend some time doing this – it might even take a couple of days to get a complete list, but don’t let this part of the process go on for too long. Getting stuck in ‘analysis paralysis’ about what the belief has cost you will prevent you from moving forward – exactly the opposite of what we’re trying to achieve.
- What advantages has the belief provided you? Maybe believing that you could never be wealthy has allowed you to avoid taking risks that could help you earn more. Or perhaps it has allowed you to work at a profession that’s easy for you instead of one that challenges you or pushes you in the direction of positive growth and greater responsibility. Perhaps one “advantage” is that you’ve not had to extend yourself to work at a new relationship because it’s easier and less challenging to only think about yourself. It might be hard to figure out what the advantages are, but they are there.
- What new belief would you like to have as a replacement? For example, for the negative belief about wealth listed above, a new replacement belief might be: “I can make any amount of money I set my mind to.” Be thoughtful and develop a new belief that will serve you well in the future. Write down this new belief in clear, descriptive terms.
- How is the new belief better than the old belief? Come up with an emotionally charged list of ways in which the new belief will impact your life for the better. Consider how you would feel when operating under this new belief. What could you become? How would your lifestyle change? Would it help other people around you? Really feel the positive emotions that would result from functioning under the new belief and the sense of relief you would feel by discarding the old, negative patterns that are holding you back from your potential.
- How can you start demonstrating or implementing the new belief today? Following our wealth-theme, it might not be the right time to plan the interior of your private jet just yet, but there are things you CAN do right now to move you in the direction of greater wealth. What could you do right now – develop a plan to make more money by placing items for sale online or at a community rummage sale? Start looking for a better paying job, or an opportunity to gain the training, knowledge or experience you need for that better paying job? Look for ways to invest the money you already have by eliminating wasteful purchases or by changing a habit like visiting the coffee shop every day? Even a small change can help the process of moving forward into more positive and productive beliefs.
Start Living Your New Belief – Acting “As If”
It might not be easy at first, but taking the time to complete the steps above will make it easier. You’ll have greater clarity around the changes you make in your behavior and habits, and be able to restate the positive beliefs every day to change your thought patterns.
Each day work to behave as if you hold the new belief. What would you do differently? How would you speak to yourself about the new belief? How would you view the world through the lens of your new belief? How would you make decisions – holding your new belief as one of your priorities and taking action to keep moving forward? How would you react to good news? Bad news?
While our behaviors determine the quality of our lives, our beliefs largely determine our behaviors. Beliefs are really the core to everything you do and become.
Beliefs can be challenging to change, as they’re frequently developed at a young age, so you might have lived in accordance with your limiting beliefs for a long time. However, with diligence and attention, they can be altered. Give yourself time to implement and remain consistent with your new beliefs. It might take 21 – 28 days to help embed these new beliefs, or it might take longer, but it’s worth the effort. Changing your beliefs for the better will change your life for the better.