Conquer Self-Doubt and Be More Confident

Everyone has times in their life when they feel inadequate and incompetent, but some of us feel that way more often than others. If you’ve undergone weight loss surgery, you’ve likely heard some of the misconceptions around your surgery and what the uneducated and ill-informed think about those of us who chose the surgery.

Many people are so busy putting themselves down in various ways that they forget what it’s like to support someone in a positive, yet challenging endeavor. The “haters”, if you will, often fail to thrive in life, stop trying to learn new skills, stop trying to better themselves, and become discouraged and depressed.

Do you feel like you were on your way to becoming one of these people? Perhaps the decision to undergo weight loss surgery was an extremely difficult one for you – as it was for me. I knew I needed help, but wasn’t sure if WLS was the ultimate answer. I had a significant amount of self-doubt to work through before I could begin to be successful.

Maybe your self-doubt stems from negative experiences early in your life. For example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your abilities even today – because you are hearing that negative audio tape over and over in your head and it’s slowing down your forward progress.

  • Traumatic experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.

Parents, teachers, and other children can sometimes say things that have a powerful impact for both good and bad – and the majority of people who say negative things to you or about you really don’t understand how powerful the impact can be, and how long it can linger. Let’s talk about how you can turn things around and silence that nagging voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough. Try these tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:

Let Go of Negative Criticism of Yourself

This applies to both past experiences and present challenges. Don’t let running into a jerk ruin your day by adding their negative voice to the tape player in your head. Realize that he or she may be taking their anger out on someone else because of their own inadequacies. People’s negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!

 

  • Stifle your tendency to criticize yourself. By disagreeing with those who criticize you, you’re taking back the power to encourage yourself and limiting their negative effect on your mindset, your energy and your goals.
  • Pay no attention to that voice in your head that’s saying you’re going to fail. If you stop listening and replace the negative voice with positive statements about your goals and actions, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.
  • Reclaim your life by believing that you CAN succeed. You are capable of reaching your goals – and believing that you can reach your goals by moving forward one step at a time is critical to building success.
  • Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you. Let those who would discourage you – subtly or overtly – keep their venom to themselves. Remove yourself from their company, limit your interactions with them, and when you DO have to be around them, choose a positive and empowering activity to eliminate their negative influence as soon as you leave their presence.

Prepare Yourself for Success and Take Positive Action

It’s not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success via positive action as well. Visualizing your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work to reach your goals except you. One way to help overcome lingering feelings of self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities and then turn them into affirmations – positive statements that encourage you toward a new, empowering action plan.

  • Make a list of at least 5 good things about you – include mental, physical and emotional aspects about yourself. Every day when you wake up, read the list out loud to help you to believe the items you’ve listed.

The action of verbally reinforcing your positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:

  • Set reasonable goals. Decide what you want to do within a set amount of time. Keep your goals SMART (Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-based) so you can meet them. If you set unrealistic goals that you simply can’t meet, you’ll quickly become discouraged.  Start out small and with each achievement, stretch yourself a little further, and you’ll set bigger goals that correspond with your dreams.
  • Get busy right away. Inactive people easily become depressed and can lose track of the path to their goals. To avoid this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals – eliminate distractions and detractors, and take steps every single day toward your goals. Hard work will always pay off in the end, and the more often you succeed, the more you’ll be comfortable with setting goals and making them happen.
  • Revel in your success – every step of the way! Self-doubt may make you think you don’t deserve to succeed – but you do! You deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more confident – at every step of your journey, no matter how small. You deserve to be honored for your hard work and perseverance – and baby steps forward are still steps forward!  Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Just remember you can’t reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many consistent, forward steps along the way to reach the peak. The same is true of achieving success and making your goals a reality.

Taking baby steps and attaining many small successes will build strength and bring you the confidence to reach your dreams. In the meantime, don’t forget to sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the successful, healthy, self-assured person you know you can be. It’s a wild and sometimes challenging ride, but it’s well worth it in the end.

SBS Mindset: Conquer Self-Doubt and Be More Confident

 

Everyone has times in their life when they feel inadequate and incompetent, but some of us feel that way more often than others. If you’ve undergone weight loss surgery, you’ve likely heard some of the misconceptions around your surgery and what the uneducated and ill-informed think about those of us who chose the surgery.

 

Many people are so busy putting themselves down in various ways that they forget what it’s like to support someone in a positive, yet challenging endeavor. The “haters”, if you will, often fail to thrive in life, stop trying to learn new skills, stop trying to better themselves, and become discouraged and depressed.

 

Do you feel like you were on your way to becoming one of these people? Perhaps the decision to undergo weight loss surgery was an extremely difficult one for you – as it was for me. I knew I needed help, but wasn’t sure if WLS was the ultimate answer. I had a significant amount of self-doubt to work through before I could begin to be successful.

 

Maybe your self-doubt stems from negative experiences early in your life. For example, if people made fun of you when you were a child, you might doubt your abilities even today – because you are hearing that negative audio tape over and over in your head and it’s slowing down your forward progress.

 

·         Traumatic experiences can cause a vicious cycle of self-doubt in your mind.

 

Parents, teachers, and other children can sometimes say things that have a powerful impact for both good and bad – and the majority of people who say negative things to you or about you really don’t understand how powerful the impact can be, and how long it can linger. Let’s talk about how you can turn things around and silence that nagging voice in your head that says you’ll never be good enough. Try these tactics to help you erase that doubt and become more confident:

 

Let Go of Negative Criticism of Yourself

 

This applies to both past experiences and present challenges. Don’t let running into a jerk ruin your day by adding their negative voice to the tape player in your head. Realize that he or she may be taking their anger out on someone else because of their own inadequacies. People’s negative attitudes speak volumes about them, not about you!

 

·         Stifle your tendency to criticize yourself. By disagreeing with those who criticize you, you’re taking back the power to encourage yourself and limiting their negative effect on your mindset, your energy and your goals.

·         Pay no attention to that voice in your head that’s saying you’re going to fail. If you stop listening and replace the negative voice with positive statements about your goals and actions, it will get quieter and eventually disappear.

·         Reclaim your life by believing that you CAN succeed. You are capable of reaching your goals – and believing that you can reach your goals by moving forward one step at a time is critical to building success.

·         Surround yourself with supportive people who believe in you. Let those who would discourage you – subtly or overtly – keep their venom to themselves. Remove yourself from their company, limit your interactions with them, and when you DO have to be around them, choose a positive and empowering activity to eliminate their negative influence as soon as you leave their presence.

 

Prepare Yourself for Success and Take Positive Action

 

It’s not enough just to think positively; you have to actively pursue success via positive action as well. Visualizing your end goal can help you make the right choices, but no one can do the work to reach your goals except you. One way to help overcome lingering feelings of self-doubt is to write down your positive qualities and then turn them into affirmations – positive statements that encourage you toward a new, empowering action plan.

 

  • Make a list of at least 5 good things about you – include mental, physical and emotional aspects about yourself. Every day when you wake up, read the list out loud to help you to believe the items you’ve listed.

 

The action of verbally reinforcing your positive thinking will help prepare your mind to succeed, but there are other ways you can help yourself achieve your goals as well:

 

·       Set reasonable goals. Decide what you want to do within a set amount of time. Keep your goals SMART (Specific, Measureable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-based) so you can meet them. If you set unrealistic goals that you simply can’t meet, you’ll quickly become discouraged.  Start out small and with each achievement, stretch yourself a little further, and you’ll set bigger goals that correspond with your dreams.

·       Get busy right away. Inactive people easily become depressed and can lose track of the path to their goals. To avoid this unpleasant situation, immerse yourself in achieving your goals – eliminate distractions and detractors, and take steps every single day toward your goals. Hard work will always pay off in the end, and the more often you succeed, the more you’ll be comfortable with setting goals and making them happen.

·       Revel in your success – every step of the way! Self-doubt may make you think you don’t deserve to succeed – but you do! You deserve a reward for conquering your self-doubt and becoming more confident – at every step of your journey, no matter how small. You deserve to be honored for your hard work and perseverance – and baby steps forward are still steps forward!  Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

 

Just remember you can’t reach the top of a mountain in one giant leap; it takes many consistent, forward steps along the way to reach the peak. The same is true of achieving success and making your goals a reality.

Taking baby steps and attaining many small successes will build strength and bring you the confidence to reach your dreams. In the meantime, don’t forget to sit back and enjoy the journey to becoming the successful, healthy, self-assured person you know you can be. It’s a wild and sometimes challenging ride, but it’s well worth it in the end.