Do negative thoughts seem to creep into your mind and ruin your self-esteem or self-confidence before you even know what’s happening? You may have spent a good part of your life thinking that way without truly realizing the cost. Parents or other influences in your life may have been the role models for your negative thinking patterns, but you can begin today to turn that pattern around.
Negative thoughts are a cycle that absolutely MUST be broken in order for you to begin to replace those thoughts that you clear from your mind with positive ones. Until then, you can learn how to challenge and defeat each negative thought that tries to worm itself into your thinking process and destroy your good mood.
Be sure to ask some specific questions of yourself when negative thoughts try to invade your thinking process. Ask yourself – “Is this thought reasonable, or does it lack the hard facts to support it?”. The situation may not be as bad as you perceive it to be – you may even be thinking, “What if…,” and it that negative thought never becomes a reality.
Many people go through life without realizing that their negative thoughts are sabotaging their lives. If you begin to recognize that and are currently working to reverse those thoughts, you’re way ahead of the ordinary.
Self-talk is said by psychologists to be the best way to either sabotage our lives or lead a life of confidence and positivity. Unfortunately, most of our self-talk is geared toward negativity. Being determined to reverse the pattern and think positively about your life, your present circumstance and the future you are building instead of being stuck in the situations you’re going through can put you way ahead of the game.
Look for the evidence of unnecessary and unsupported negative in the thoughts you’re having. For example, if you’re thinking, “The weather is bad and this plane might crash” during a routine flight, you know intelligently that you have no evidence to support that thought. Most planes take off and land with no incident at all. So, you can decide that your negative thoughts aren’t factual, but instead, made up of interpretations that have no basis in fact.
You can also challenge your negative thinking by asking yourself what is the worst thing that could happen in a situation and how likely is it to happen. If you were thinking positive thoughts, would the situation still look as serious as it is in your mind right now? Probably not.
Another way to challenge your negative thinking is to direct your thinking toward the goals you want to accomplish. For example, ask yourself if what you’re thinking will help you move forward, toward your goals – or not.
Can you learn from the situation you’re in and change your thinking about it next time? After you consistently challenge and re-direct your negative thinking, you can think positively about any situation you’re in and start easing your way through life.
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