Don’t Light That Fuse! How to Develop Patience and Tolerance

Life is full of stress inducers and issues can surely trigger impatience and intolerance in anyone. Are you finding that you’re becoming more impatient with those around you? Would you consider yourself as someone with a short fuse? Would your friends or loved ones describe you as having a short fuse?

The negative effects of having a “short fuse” can be numerous – an August 2014 article on About dot com lists the following:

  • Hypertension (high blood pressure)
  • Heart disease
  • Job stress
  • Social Isolation
  • Increased overall stress

People who exhibit many of these traits – commonly called “Type A” personalities – need to understand the negative effects and find out what environmental factors could be influencing their behavior. For some people, culture and job structure can contribute to stress levels and the resulting behavior.

Do you get upset over the slightest of things? Some people have a natural tendency to be more intense – and that tendency can be made worse by environmental stress, or it can be lessened by conscious effort and lifestyle changes.

If you answered “yes” to any of the questions above, it’s time to work on identifying and implementing some techniques to tackle your tendency toward impatience before it becomes a problem, or to start reversing the trend if it’s already a problem. There’s definitely nothing good that can come out of giving off that negative energy!

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Using these tips can give you a jump-start in effectively dealing with your short fuse:

  1. Identify the source. One of the crucial elements in developing a plan to tackle impatience and intolerance is to identify just what gets you in that state. Once you’ve been able to pinpoint that, answer the following questions:

Why does it make you impatient or why are you intolerant in the situation?
Is there an alternate response you could express instead of impatience or intolerance?
Could the outcome be more positive if you avoid the source of your impatience or intolerance altogether?

  1. Be conscious of your responses and reactions. This is perhaps one of the most important steps to correcting how you deal with issues that cause you to lose patience. The more often you stop and acknowledge your flare up, the sooner you’ll be able to grab hold of it before things get out of hand.
  2. Count to ten. As simple as this seems, it’s definitely very effective. Counting to ten gives you the opportunity to rethink your response. What you’ll find is that giving yourself a chance to “cool down” before responding will result in a more favorable outcome for you and any other party involved.
  3. Recognize the impact on your mental, physical and psychological state. A firm bit of advice would be to stop and consider how your actions and reactions are affecting you. Impatience and intolerance often lead to issues with health, such as high blood pressure. Becoming conscious of what you could be doing to your body will help you fight the urge to respond negatively.
  4. Recognize the impact on others. Apart from creating a stressful scenario for others that could possibly lead to health complications, have you ever thought about the emotional effects? Impatience and intolerance can lead you to make degrading, humiliating statements that could severely traumatize others.

Spend some time contemplating the possible effects your actions have on others.
Ask those around you how they feel when you display impatience and intolerance.

  1. Meditation can lead to a newfound calmness that could impact how you respond to the actions of others or challenges that typically cause you to lose patience. Introducing meditation to your daily routine will surely have positive effects.

Listen to daily inspirational audio recordings that you can meditate on during the course of each day.
Begin and stick with a deep meditation practice once a week while at home.
Introduce soothing melodies and songs to your work and home environment that can change the mood in the air and subsequently impact you in a positive way.

Instinctively, you’ll want to display the negative responses you’re accustomed to displaying because it’s much easier than trying to contain them. It’s certainly an easier road to walk, however, it is definitely not the most positive or beneficial road!

Reach deep within and cultivate the urge and sincere desire to change how you respond to things that normally irritate you. Focus on these tips and allow yourself to learn more positive approaches one day at a time. You’ll be glad you did!