I am a regular subscriber to the DailyOM email – you can find them at DailyOM – they have online courses (like my Love Your Reflection e-course), inspirational quotes and readings, and much more. I love their daily wisdom in my in box and have been a fan of their printed magazine for quite some time. My mom originally introduced me to the bits of wisdom known as the Daily Word many years ago.
One of their messages struck me as particularly relevant for those of us struggling to complete a journey to a more positive and healthy self-image:
Part of the Process
If you are feeling stuck in your life, it is possible you are clinging to an old reality or thoughts.
When we feel stuck in our lives it’s important to take stock of what is going on and find out if there is something we are doing or not doing that is keeping us stuck. Sometimes the situation is out of our control, and we need to look within to find the patience required to wait with equanimity until things move forward again. Many times, though, we can find the source of our stagnation in our own hearts and minds. Sometimes we are clinging to old ideas about reality and we need to make adjustments that will bring us back in tune with life, so we can flow again. Sometimes we find that fear of change is what’s keeping us stuck, and we can resolve to find ways of facing that fear.
Finding the patience required to wait until things move forward again is NOT the easiest thing I’ve ever done, and I’m betting you feel the same way. Losing 50 lbs or more is most likely going to involve a plateau or two (or three). Plateaus are those dreaded times when you feel like your weight loss has stalled – you’re eating well, working out well, and yet, nothing changes…they can be frustrating and disheartening.
If introspection does not provide the answers we need, it can sometimes be helpful to ask those around you if they notice anything obvious that you might not be able to see. Remember to ask someone whom you can trust to be kind and sensitive as well as honest. Try to let go of your resistance because whenever there is something we can’t see ourselves, it’s because we don’t want to see it. Try to listen with an open mind, and remember that you are always the final judge of what you need. Anything offered to us from an outside source will need to be processed within before its wisdom can take hold.
When asking outside sources for assistance or advice, remember to listen with that open mind, but you must also be mindful of WHO you are asking for assistance. There are probably people in your life who would be far more comfortable if you did NOT change – no matter that it will improve your health and self-esteem, they simply don’t see it that way. Their own insecurities may ‘shade’ their advice to you…and they may not even realize that’s what is going on. Give yourself time to process any outside advice and determine if it fits into YOUR definition of wisdom. You may also find that while advice is well-meaning, it may NOT fall into your definition of wisdom, and you may not want to carry it forward with you into your journey.
In all this, be kind to yourself and remember that we all get stuck sometimes. Think of it as a part of your process, a necessary step on your journey, rather than as a problem that shouldn’t be happening. This can help to keep your frustration at bay and give you the space you need to take a deep breath and really figure out what’s going on.
This I cannot emphasize enough – be tough on yourself, yes – when it comes to sticking with a healthy eating plan, a reasonable and progressive exercise routine that continues to challenge your muscles, balance and endurance – but also be kind to yourself. Losing a significant amount of weight is good FOR your body, but also a challenge TO your body. You need time to adjust, and your body will TAKE time to adjust. Consistency is key – keep on doing what you know to be right, and your will clear the plateau and resume your forward journey.
Above all – Don’t Give Up! Remember always that it took you more than a few weeks to gain the weight and get into the situation you are now leaving. Give yourself enough time to make the journey. It’s worth it in the end…