Forgiveness – it’s an easy word to say, but not quite as easy to LIVE.
When you’ve been hurt – either by someone, a specific circumstance, or even by your own actions, it can be hard to let go of the pain and sorrow surrounding the incident. You think about what happened over and over again, and by doing so, the pain remains fresh, keen…it weighs on your spirit and your mind, can cause stress in your body, and can even cause physical reactions like a headache.
Everyone experiences some pain in their lives – and our relationship with ourselves can be one of the greatest sources of pain for us – we can be VERY hard on ourselves. So what is it that makes some people able to overcome their pain, disappointment or hurt sooner than others? Why is it so hard to let go?
I’ve had to ask myself this question many times over the years – I sometimes hold on to hurts (real or imagined) and by holding on to them, they continue to cause me pain and upset. I’ve changed, though…I do not hold on to hurts the way that I used to. I have taken a greater level of responsibility for the pain and hurt I feel – now, instead of condemning the person who I feel has hurt me, or the situation that has made me uncomfortable, I analyze.
I analyze what MY part in the pain and the hurt consists of. I analyze what I am holding on to – why I cannot release the issue from my heart and mind, because when I’m in that unforgiving state, I’m blocking the good that would come to me if I were OPEN. I have taken a stand toward renouncing pain and hurt, and am actively working to NOT hold on to things that have hurt me. I refuse to give negative, hurtful thoughts and the rememberance of pain and hurt any lasting power over me.
Renunciation is “a letting go of old thoughts in order that new thoughts may find a place in consciousness.”
By renouncing negative thoughts and feelings, we remove the power they have over us – we can be truly free. Whatever you’ve experienced in your past and would like to let go of can be moved aside. When you do not fix your attention on it, it can no longer harm you. There’s a gospel song that reads “Glory, Glory, Hallelujah…Since I laid my burden down…” We have to learn to lay the burdens of negative feelings and hurt from the past down and NOT pick them back up.
The past cannot hurt us unless we continue to revisit it and the negative feelings that come with it. Open your hands, arms and hearts to release the past and leave room to receive your present good. When you forgive – forgive other, and especially forgive yourself – you are FREE.