From my daily emails – I recieved this one from Oprah.com and HAD to share it with you!
Allow Yourself to Be Talked into Talking About Yourself
When your focus is on what other people need, want or have-to-have-this-minute, it’s hard to remember—let alone do anything about—what you need or want, says Leah Eskenazi, director of operations and planning at the Family Caregiver Alliance. Spending time with a friend (or multiple friends) forces you to answer the question, “How are you?”—and you may be surprised at how much you have to say on that topic once you get going.
We know—life seems to be on high RPMs all the time, and making plans might feel like yet another task you don’t have time for. So leave it up to your friends: Once a month, pledge to say yes to any invitation you receive. Sure, the timing may not be the best, but few things are going to fit perfectly into your currently chaotic schedule, and, as your friends have probably been telling you, you need to get out of the house.
LYR Note: Sometimes we have to forget the “wisdom” we’ve been taught as children – not to talk about ourselves too much for fear of seeming conceited or self-centered. We push our own needs to the side (or to the back) of our “To do” list, and after a while, we are not only feeling neglected, we may build up resentment about feeling neglected. It’s not conceited or selfish to talk about yourself and what you are going through.
Don’t make the mistake of monopolizing the conversation and running on forever, but take the opportunity to get together with friends at LEAST once a month and give yourself permission to not only listen, but to express what’s going on in your heart and mind as well. If your personality does not lend itself to group sharing, spend that time with a trusted friend or mentor instead – but make sure to take the time to do this. It’s essential for your self-confidence and your self-esteem – because holding in all the challenges can make you feel burdened, needing to find the strength to carry your concerns all alone, and that can wear you down. Remember also that sharing your joys will lighten the hearts of all who hear them – and may encourage them to share with you as well!
You may just find that this exercise will help you get closer to loving who and what you see in the mirror every single day.