7 Ways to Increase Your Self-Confidence

When you believe in yourself and you’re sure that you’ll succeed at what you put effort into, you have self-confidence. Throughout life, your level of self-confidence might rise or fall when you’re faced with challenging situations, but you have the power to increase your self-confidence.

Although parents can encourage their children to believe in themselves, as adults, we don’t have to wait for anyone else to do it for us – WE hold the keys to strengthening our own confidence.

If you find that you’re feeling less self-assured than you’d like, you can step up and take action to build yourself back up. Consider the following strategies to find inspiration, and then pick one to implement in the next 7 days to get you started.

Take personal responsibility to build your self-confidence using these methods:

  1. Select a mentor. If you want to build stronger belief in yourself, seek out someone who you think exhibits great self-confidence, and model their behavior. Consider this person to be your model of self-confidence. When selecting a mentor, ask yourself:

Does he / she stand straight and strong?

Is he / she relaxed and open to others?

In addition to these traits, maybe your role model has a good sense of humor and looks people straight in the eye when speaking to them. Or perhaps they model other characteristics you admire.

Having someone to emulate is incredibly inspiring. Modeling after your mentor helps to enhance your self-confidence, because you are adopting behavior that already leads to success, removing some of the apprehension that is included with change.

  1. Identify what you’re doing right in your life. Sure, you know your shortcomings, but what about all those things you do well? Everyone excels at some tasks or activities. Seek out what those things are for you.

Make a list of what you believe you’re good at, and consider this: no one in the world has the same unique qualities and strengths that you do in the way that you do.

What are you doing right? If you know (and reinforce) the answer to this, your self-confidence will bloom.

  1. Pretend you’re self-confident. You can most likely identify times and situations in your history when you didn’t feel particularly positive. Think about how you handled some of them.

On your good days, you put your chin up and plowed forward into the situation at hand. You pretended you could do it, and acted “as if”. And chances are, you did!

Going forward, on the days you feel the least self-confident, think of your mentor and pretend that you’re confident like he or she is.

Believe in yourself. Have faith that you’ll make it through.

  1. Make a list of your strong points. What character traits do you have to offer that are of great benefit to you or others?

Are you patient, kind or caring? Identify personality characteristics that you’re proud of. Think about your strong points. Knowing yourself will enhance your self-confidence.

  1. In your daily life, notice when you do something well. Perhaps you just cleaned up your car and it looks awesome. Maybe you completed a report and it’s the best you’ve ever written.
  • Recognize during each day the times when you excel. Perhaps you helped your child through a difficult time or you made a great chocolate cake.

Little efforts add up to build your self-confidence.

  1. Celebrate your progress. Take notice of your good fortune.

When you’ve met or surpassed your goals, celebrate! Rejoice in your own successes. Congratulate yourself as you build the self-confidence you seek.

  1. Choose optimism as a daily approach to everything. Strive to be positive in life’s journey.

When you make the decision to find the best in whatever life brings you, your self-confidence will soar.


Strengthening your self-confidence is within your reach. Choosing a mentor, knowing your strong points, and celebrating your achievements are just a few of strategies that build your self-confidence.

Promise yourself today that you’ll strive to strengthen your belief in yourself, and then take action! You have a legitimate right to live your life with great self-esteem.