Do You Speak the Language of Mending Feelings?

Words have a LOT of power. That old nursery rhyme “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me!” has been found to be mostly untrue. The words used to describe everything from the house or dwelling we live in to the car we drive and our level of education can have a profound and lasting effect on our well-being, mentally and emotionally.

The difference between positive and negative words can be in the ears and emotions of the person hearing them – and we’ve all been in situations where our words (or someone else’s) have been misinterpreted. The words you use when you express yourself have an impact on those around you. We’ve all met one or more individuals who seem unaware of how their words affect others – especially the negative ones. How about you? Do you use your words to uplift others or tear them down?

Perhaps you’d like to mend a few fences in your life – avoid those feelings of regret we talked about in a previous blog post. Maybe you just want to ensure you’re using supportive, healing language.

Whatever the case, here are some wonderful words to use often and generously. These terms usually make others feel great and can go a long way toward mending relationships that require fixing.

Keep these words and phrases in mind:

  1. I’m listening. Sometimes, when someone important to you is trying to share their feelings, you might be busy with something else.

If you can switch your attention from what you’re doing to your loved one momentarily, they’ll feel like they really matter to you. Giving someone the gift of your full attention cannot be underestimated – everyone wants to feel important and “heard”.

  1. I’m sorry. One of the most healing things you can do for another person and yourself is to say, “I’m sorry.” Even if you’ve been stubborn about avoiding saying it, try it out a few times. Realize how much the words would mean to you if the situation were reversed and YOU were the offended party.

It will make you feel like you’re wiping your slate clean of the error you made. Plus, when your apology is truly sincere, it will encourage you to be more wary of your words and actions in the future.

  1. I forgive you. Getting to the point of forgiving someone can take a lot of time and soul-searching. However, when you truly accept and forgive, you are freed from the weight of your hurt, resentment, and anger.

It’s a humbling, yet positive experience to forgive others for something they did that upset you. Remaining upset means they retain control over you. Forgiving them means you take back the control and decide how much of your time and energy you want to continue to commit to the situation.

You have the power to mend an important relationship by using three simple words: I forgive you. Saying it out loud is as much for you as the other person.

  1. I appreciate what you do. According to the Wordbook Dictionary, to appreciate someone is to value, admire, honor, or take notice of them.

Wouldn’t it feel great if someone you love or respect told you they noticed and appreciated something you did? When you tell others you appreciate them, they see that you’ve paid attention to what they do. You’ll appear optimistic and spread that optimism to the other person.

To begin healing a less-than-satisfactory relationship, add this simple sentence, “I appreciate you” to your vocabulary and use it often.

  1. I know you can do it. Directly expressing your confidence in someone can buoy spirits and boost their confidence. When you hear that someone else believes you can achieve something, don’t you begin to believe more in yourself too? So do others – and isn’t it great that we have the power to help someone rise to a challenge through what we say to them?
  2. I love you. When you cherish your close relationships, you’ll want to use caring and supportive words often. Saying, “I love you” is just about the most emotionally supportive and caring words you can say.

When a loved one is having a tough day or just for no reason at all, these spoken words can bring warmth, joy, and solace. When you say, “I love you,” it’s a simple expression that transmits so much. Your connection is strengthened, and you can help to reinforce their determination to get through their challenge.

Using the language of mending feelings each day can be one of the most soothing and supportive habits you can develop. Speaking words like, “I’m listening,” “I’m sorry,” and “I forgive you” helps to heal an injury and give the other person the ability to heal and move forward.

Saying, “I appreciate what you do,” “I know you can do it,” and “I love you” can turn someone’s frown upside down and give them a boost of energy to complete a commitment or take positive, focused action.

Share your love and joy for life by using language that mends and uplifts the souls of those you care about. Your kindness will be returned to bring you even more happiness.