The word failure is often used to describe a situation where one or more of your desired goals are not realized at a specific point in time. There are many reasons that could play a part in a goal not being realized – absolutely none of them have to do with your value or worth as a person.
Let’s break down some of the ideas behind unhealthy views of failure and see how moving toward a more positive approach can help you realize greater success:
* If you are trying out for a team – say the high school basketball team – and you don’t make the cut, this doesn’t make you a failure. It simply means that under the specific circumstances, the coach didn’t believe that you had the necessary skill to play on this particular team at this point in time.
* Much of the pain coming from not reaching a desired goal is your attachment to a specific outcome. If you define your value and worth as a person by whether or not you make a sports team, you’re setting yourself up for that ugly seven-letter word: failure.
* Those who value trying their best – regardless of the outcome – have more confident and solidly positive views of themselves.
* You too can have a positive and confident view when you realize that you’re not responsible for certain outcomes after you do everything in your power to achieve the result you desire.
* If you’re not currently doing everything in your power to achieve your positive desire, then start doing it today! If you already are, then sit back and relax in the understanding that you’re doing everything you can and cannot ask more of yourself.
It may be worthwhile to step back and assess whether or not this is a matter of a challenge with a particular skill set or something where allowing yourself more time to reach the original goal is all that is needed.
These are the questions that successful people ask themselves when encountering roadblocks to successful outcomes.
As soon as you attach your self worth to an outcome, you’re likely to be overcome with emotion and find it harder to use sound logic to increase your chances of success later.
In order to overcome failure, you must be ready for a dramatic shift in your outlook on the meaning of failure and success.
No matter how much you want to be a Hollywood movie star (for instance), if the steps that you are capable of taking to bring yourself closer to that goal are limited at this point in time, you’ll be subjecting yourself to a constant state of negative stress by continually expecting greater results.
Patience will be your friend in changing your thinking about these fundamental concepts. Nearly all successful individuals possess ample amounts of patience – and a refusal to let go of their goals keeps them motivated to keep working.
Remember: Never give up. Keep trying. Do the best you can and focus on the process instead of the outcome. The final result will be success!