The song “Embraceable You”, written by Ira Gershwin and set to music by George Gershwin, was one of Frank Sinatra’s biggest hits. It was also recorded by luminaries such as Nat King Cole, Judy Garland, Billie Holiday, and Liza Minnelli. The song speaks of a love for one person, and one person alone, that “sweet, embraceable you.”
Do you find it difficult to accept the person you are? To see yourself as sweet and embraceable? Maybe you feel discomfort about being so different from everyone else. Or perhaps you find yourself similar to others to the point that you believe you’re boring.
Either way, it’s time to recognize that your special variety of character traits – some might call them charms – that combine to create a one and only, very unique, very embraceable you.
Although there are many ways to accept and enjoy who you are, check out these strategies to open your eyes, mind and heart to the amazing individual you are right now:
- Take note of your regular habits. What kind of habits do you practice? Do you floss your teeth every night and consistently wash dishes as soon as you dirty them? Is your bedtime and time for arising always the same?
Understand what’s important to you by noticing the behaviors you routinely do. In a sense, your habits are your “trademark.” You’ve created or reinforced those habits through repeated action – hopefully, actions that have served you well or gotten you the results you wanted!
- Describe your personality in detail. A wonderful technique for embracing your individuality is to think deeply about the type of person you are. If you had to describe yourself to another human being, what words would you use?
Maybe you’re always in a hurry – moving at a fast pace – or you like to keep a very clean house. Perhaps you have a lot of friends and are quite gregarious, easy to get to know and to get along with.
Write down your description of yourself and be as thoughtful and thorough about your personality characteristics as you can. You’re worth the time this strategy will take. If you’re having trouble with your self-definition, or find yourself using many negative terms, check into my “Aligning Your Inner and Outer Beauty self-paced workshop HERE. You’ll get the guidance you need to help you create a new, positive self-definition that will help you to define who you are.
- What is positive and productive about you? Of course, you have your own special blend of positive qualities, like being a good listener, having a good sense of humor, and being dependable for others. You have to realize what your good qualities are before you can express them and their effect on your individuality.
- Identify your biggest struggles. What challenges you? If you’re ever stumped about how to handle a situation, describe those situations on paper. Getting a handle on what taxes you the most increases your self-awareness and can help you see solutions to the challenges you face.
- Work to improve how you handle your biggest struggles. Yes, identification is great but tackling each of the challenges you discover one by one, and experiencing success in overcoming the situations is very important to do for yourself. Why? Because you’ll see that you can overcome anything you set your mind to. Reference some of my past blog posts to get additional insight into how you can tap into self-improvement principles to learn more about the unique person you are.
- Remind yourself that you’re a decent human being. In order to embrace your unique individuality, you must accept who you are right now. Learning to love who and what you see in the mirror every single day, to accept yourself as you currently are is a great aid to loving and encouraging others. Sure, you have flaws, but who doesn’t?
Keep in mind that recognizing you’re okay doesn’t mean you can’t work to improve. In fact, accepting your foibles and less-than-perfect characteristics can help you improve, because you’ll have a clear picture of what can be changed for the better, and that will help you set goals and develop a plan.
- Vow to embrace who you are each morning. It’s a new day. You have opportunities to experience new and positive discoveries about yourself and who you are. Consider the unfolding day as a venue to keep learning more and more about yourself, and to see yourself realistically. Claim the power you were born with to reinforce what’s positive and to change what needs changing.
Actively work each day to love your individuality. Notice your habits. Stay in close touch with the elements of your personality. Know what is great about you as well as what kinds of things vex you.
Embracing your individuality and accepting yourself for exactly who you are – with an eye toward getting better – will enrich your life in ways you can’t imagine.