Your Choices Should Be Your Own

When your choices are your own, you will be more likely to accept and be satisfied with the outcome of those choices.

Madisyn Taylor for Daily OM

Our lives are defined by the choices we make each day. When we choose one path, one option over another, we shape our lives. The decision-making process can be affirming, reinforcing our status as independent and free-thinking individuals. It can provide a tangible example of the benefits of self-determination – deciding what is right for US at any moment in time.

Yet choices can also be a source of anxiety because they force us to face the possibility of making a wrong choice – being dissatisfied with the result – and they can also be a source of inner conflict if we do not trust our own ability to make the right choices. Many of us have grown used to NOT trusting our own choices, and as a result, we allow others to make choices for us.

When we allow others to make choices for us – even seemingly inconsequential ones – we turn over our power. We grant others a level of stewardship over our lives that is ours by right and that we should be  protecting. When we make our own decisions, however difficult or challenging, we grow more self-sufficient and secure each time.

Ultimately, only you can know how the choice you are making will impact your daily life and your long-term well-being and success. You have the power to analyze and weigh the advantages and disadvantages of each choice that is presented to you. If you’re not feeling capable of making a decision, exercise your faith in yourself and trust your inner wisdom and intuition to help you find answers.

Try to come to your own conclusions before seeking guidance from others, and treat their suggestions as just that – suggestions – rather than definite direction.  Before making a choice, release your fear of making a wrong decision – mistakes can lead you to wonderfully unexpected results and life-changing insights. Let go of the notion that certain choices are utterly right versus others that are utterly wrong. 

When your choices are your own, you are likely to accept the outcome of those choices and to be satisfied with the outcomes. Your decisions will be a reflection of your desires, your creativity, your awareness, and your power – understanding that you must live with the results. That understanding will bring the realization that you must take responsibility for your decisions – encouraging you to be intentional and to take great care when making your choice. As you continue to make informed and autonomous choices on many different levels from big decisions to smaller ones, you will build confidence, strength, and gain the freedom to direct the flow of your life without interference from others.